Brokered by Love
Only love can reconcile the need for virtue with the desire for happiness.
Happiness and virtue are brokered by love.
In moral philosophy there is a significant divide between:
- Those who think morality has a purpose - telos - or
- Those who believe moral action is just about doing the right thing - with no reference to a goal.
In my Phd thesis I have argued at length that the moral understanding cannot be reduced to either perspective, that it is ultimately founded in our experience of duty, but that duties reaches out to virtue both in its respect for rights, but also in its desire for the good.
However another way of looking at this dilemma is much easier.
Think about bringing up your child. You want your child to be happy (and this can have many meanings) and you want your child to be good (and this can have many meanings). But what is the exercise of loving your child if it is not the effort of reconciling these two objectives. The paradoxical hope of true love is that our children will live long and contented lives but that they become the kind of people who know when they must sacrifice themselves for the sake of others.
Only love, not empty rationality, can reconcile this paradox.